So I've been having trouble letting go of desire / lust / cravings for sex. I feel completely fulfilled and independent and grateful for the life I have, but I still have desire surface sometimes. For this reason, I recently shaved a beard I loved. All for self-gratification / pleasure. I have been blessed to receive such beautiful knowledge below, but still don't know why this lower desire exists. I wonder if it's the foods we eat / the impressions from past lives.
I completely shaved off my beard a few days ago and had a date today. The lady was so sweet, beautiful and enjoyable to be around...but, I don't see myself with her long term. She's fit as can be, blonde and blue-eyed. She would be amazing to be with, but I don't want to hurt her. I'll be completely honest with her and see where things go. At this point in my life and spiritual journey, I don't think I could seduce a woman into sex and then tell her that it's not going to work out. I used to have a bad habit of doing this to women. This time, I think I'll take the higher road and simply tell her that I am very attracted to her, think she's amazing, but simply don't feel like I could be with her from an emotional / heart-centered / romantically loving space. I think it's amazing how quickly we can determine if we are going to be able to be emotionally invested or not. Maybe I'm way too quick to judge. For now, I'll be completely honest with her before I touch her in any way. We'll see...today's blog entry and desire to write came based on some beautiful knowledge that a dear friend of mine shared from our beloved Gurudev...
Q: Sometimes I wonder, I have so many unending desires and you keep on fulfilling them. This makes me smile. How to get rid of hankering over desires Gurudev?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: You know your desires are getting fulfilled, that is enough. Be busy in fulfilling the desires of others, not your own desires.
See, what is the significance of the Guru Discipline Tradition? It is for the Disciple to realize that desires are endless. ‘Like the waves of the ocean desires keep coming one after the other. That is why I must keep my desires aside and do as per the Guru desires. ’
When you do this then the mind becomes hollow and empty and you start feeling a sense of lightness. Life then moves beyond joy and sorrow, and all craving and aversion automatically disappear.
This is the only way to remove cravings and aversions.
That is why it is said, ‘Na Guror Adhikam, Na Guror Adhikam, Na Guror Adhikam’ (There is nothing greater than Guru, there is nothing greater than Guru, there is nothing greater than Guru because Guru is the embodiment of all that is greatest.)
So leave everything on the Guru, and surrender to the Guru.
Fulfillment cannot be achieved through desires because if one desire is fulfilled another one comes, and if that is fulfilled another one comes. And then the mind keeps wandering between desires. Some desire or another will keep troubling your mind day and night.
Do you know, if there is anything in this world that troubles you, the topmost on the list is your own mind!
I am saying topmost because you do not see this. You feel that someone else is bothering you. You think your mother in law is troubling you, or your daughter-in-law is troubling you, or your wife or husband is troubling you. Keep all that as second on the list.
It is your own mind which is troubling you; there is no other enemy out there. Once you realize this you will understand that it is not the other, all the botherations are of the mind.
-Sri Sri
I completely shaved off my beard a few days ago and had a date today. The lady was so sweet, beautiful and enjoyable to be around...but, I don't see myself with her long term. She's fit as can be, blonde and blue-eyed. She would be amazing to be with, but I don't want to hurt her. I'll be completely honest with her and see where things go. At this point in my life and spiritual journey, I don't think I could seduce a woman into sex and then tell her that it's not going to work out. I used to have a bad habit of doing this to women. This time, I think I'll take the higher road and simply tell her that I am very attracted to her, think she's amazing, but simply don't feel like I could be with her from an emotional / heart-centered / romantically loving space. I think it's amazing how quickly we can determine if we are going to be able to be emotionally invested or not. Maybe I'm way too quick to judge. For now, I'll be completely honest with her before I touch her in any way. We'll see...today's blog entry and desire to write came based on some beautiful knowledge that a dear friend of mine shared from our beloved Gurudev...
Q: Sometimes I wonder, I have so many unending desires and you keep on fulfilling them. This makes me smile. How to get rid of hankering over desires Gurudev?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: You know your desires are getting fulfilled, that is enough. Be busy in fulfilling the desires of others, not your own desires.
See, what is the significance of the Guru Discipline Tradition? It is for the Disciple to realize that desires are endless. ‘Like the waves of the ocean desires keep coming one after the other. That is why I must keep my desires aside and do as per the Guru desires. ’
When you do this then the mind becomes hollow and empty and you start feeling a sense of lightness. Life then moves beyond joy and sorrow, and all craving and aversion automatically disappear.
This is the only way to remove cravings and aversions.
That is why it is said, ‘Na Guror Adhikam, Na Guror Adhikam, Na Guror Adhikam’ (There is nothing greater than Guru, there is nothing greater than Guru, there is nothing greater than Guru because Guru is the embodiment of all that is greatest.)
So leave everything on the Guru, and surrender to the Guru.
Fulfillment cannot be achieved through desires because if one desire is fulfilled another one comes, and if that is fulfilled another one comes. And then the mind keeps wandering between desires. Some desire or another will keep troubling your mind day and night.
Do you know, if there is anything in this world that troubles you, the topmost on the list is your own mind!
I am saying topmost because you do not see this. You feel that someone else is bothering you. You think your mother in law is troubling you, or your daughter-in-law is troubling you, or your wife or husband is troubling you. Keep all that as second on the list.
It is your own mind which is troubling you; there is no other enemy out there. Once you realize this you will understand that it is not the other, all the botherations are of the mind.
-Sri Sri
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